How To Deal With What Other People Think About You



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Do you ever obsess over what everyone thinks about you? If you answered yes, you're going to want to stay tuned for this episode. I'm about to share with you why what other people think about you, may say more about them than it does about you. Assistants, if you would like more transformational strategies geared towards you, please subscribe to my channel and hit the bell to be notified, when my weekly videos go live. I'm Annie Croner of And during this season of The Whole Assistant Show, I'm breaking down common myths we as assistants need to overcome, in order to live our best lives and have careers we love. During today's episode, I'll share with you how to stop obsessing over what your executive and colleagues think of you, in order to take back your power. This strategy has proven very effective in my own life and has proven beneficial to my clients as well.

It can be so easy to fall into the trap of caring too much about what other people think about us. This can lead to increased anxiety, stress and worry, because we're constantly obsessing over what our executives are thinking of us and if we're doing a good job. And we try to insert ourselves into his brain, but not in a good way. Not in a helpful way, but in a harmful way. Because we just become obsessed over whether or not we're doing a good job, and what he thinks of us. Same with our colleagues and coworkers. So it's also exhausting guys when we insert ourselves into someone else's brain in this way. It can be totally draining of our time and of our energy. Do you ever find yourself obsessing over what others think of you? If so, please share your experience in the comment section below.

So when we find ourselves in a place of obsessing over what our colleagues and coworkers are thinking about us, obsessing over what our executive is thinking about us, and trying to insert ourselves into their brain, and we are worried over what other people are thinking about us. I want us all to consider adopting this rhetorical question. "What if what other people think about me says more about them, than it does about me?" So a while back my sister was telling me this story, several years ago actually, of a friend of hers who had another friend who had purchased purple pants in a secondhand store. And she wore the purple pants the next day to the office. And on her way to the office, she stopped off at her normal coffee place and got her cup of coffee, and the barista commented on how cute her purple pants were.

And then she got to the office and she had a friend there who noted that they were her favorite color. And then her boss looks sideways at her thinking that the purple pants were completely inappropriate for the workplace. And she got to the end of her day and she reflected over everybody's responses to her awesome purple pants, and she had a realization. That what other people think or thought about her purple pants said more about them than it did about her and her purple pants. I want us all to adopt this idea that what other people think of us is just their interpretation of us. It says nothing really about us. And now if you get the same feedback over and over again, that is something to look at and to consider. But I will say that if you're getting a variety of feedback, or you're concerned about what other people think about you, let's just set that aside for a minute, and realize that what other people think about us says more about them, than it does about us.

I hope this episode has been helpful, and now I want to hear from you. What's one situation you've gone through, that's been completely purple pants? Has been completely a matter of perspective. Please share in the comment section below. I help assistants get everything done while finding freedom from overwhelm and burnout. If you're curious whether working with me in a coaching capacity is right for you, please feel free to email me at [email protected], or schedule your free 20-minute discovery call. The link is below this video. To continue the discussion and receive support from your fellow assistants and administrative professionals, please head on over to, to join our assistants only community. If you liked this episode, please let me know by hitting the like button below. Also, be sure to subscribe and share this video with your fellow assistants and administrative professionals. And last but not least, if this episode has helped you in any way, I want to know about it. So please leave a comment below sharing how.


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